Your Kids Temper Tantrums

Your experiencing temper tantrums from your kids. What should you do. I'm going to be honest here and tell you what typically causes those temper tantrums. In most cases the problem lies with you the parent.

They are called a spoiled child. Believe it or not the medical community has a term for this. It's called "Spoiled Child Syndrome". Pretty original isn't it. Spoiled kids are the result of over-indulgence by you. Most parents secretly know this but can't help themselves.  

The "Spoiled Child Syndrome" differs from another child problem "Oppositional Defiant Disorder". They can have similar symptoms but they have different causes. Right now we will just deal with your kids temper tantrums. 

Your kids may be exhibiting these behaviors, self-centered, immature behavior, won't tolerate lack of gratification, no regard for others and manipulative. These behaviors are what we call spoiled kids. Ok, how did they get that way and what part did you play in this. 

Unfortunately you played a major part in all this. Your kids learn a great deal from you with out you even being aware. They watch you and are always testing the limits. Here are several things you probably indulged in. 

• You failed to enforce consistent, age appropriate limits. You thought you were being nice to your kids.

• You sheltered you kids from the demands of everyday life's frustrations. You believe the world is a hard place and you just wanted to shelter them from the problems. This is a major mistake.

• Showered your kids with excessive gifts even if they behave badly. You might of given them gifts because they were behaving badly to make them stop. Most parents are guilty of this because it seems to work. You actually reinforced the bad behavior in your kids.

• You were a bad role model for your kids. Yes your behavior has a large impact on them. This includes how you interact with other adults. Most parents are guilty of this to a greater or lesser extent.

We have all indulged in some of the above behavior as parents. The problem for your kids comes in when you as parents continually exhibit one or all of the above. if you find yourself the proud parent of a spoiled child there is good news.

You can correct your kids temper tantrums  if you recognize your contributing behavior and take action to change it. here are some simple things you can do.

• During the first six months your infant's crying is normal and you can comfort him as much as you want. At this age you don't have to worry.

• From seven months until eighteen months slowly start to allow the child to comfort themselves.

• From eighteen months to three years you need to start setting firm limits on what is acceptable behavior and what is not.  Be clear and consistent with your child. Do not feel guilty for disciplining your child for stepping outside of the boundaries. 

•  Four years old to about six or seven years old never become over aggravated because of the rules being broken.  Always remain calm but firm. Children do not develop the concept of adult morality until around this age.

These same rules apply to older kids as they grow up. Starting these types of rules with older kids will bring them around to understanding their behavior is unacceptable. If you were lucky enough to understand what was expected while your kids were young you probably didn't see too many temper tantrums. If they are occurring now in your older kids you need to get a good parental management guide. Educate yourself because you can stop the temper tantrums with a little knowledge.  

With proper education on your part, you’ll be enjoying raising your kids without temper tantrums.  

I want you to grab a copy of our Free Audio Course and truly listen to it. Try and follow the advice, based on a tremendous amount of research, and help your child cope with life.   

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